Chapter 45 – Root of the problem.

Sasha’s POV


Every problem has a root, a cause, a reason for being. I had found out with Nef that there was a root problem. It was something that I thought we’d moved past. It was my mother. Let’s be brutally honest for a second. My mother does not like Nef. She does not approve of our relationship and she has made it known. She has not tried to get to know Nef and she has not tried to make this situation work. In fact at every turn she has tried to tell me that I should choose someone else, some one that she knows, someone Russian.

Nef has always told me that it didn’t matter. She’s told me that she could handle my mother…and for a while she could. When we were together in DC nothing my mother did could affect her. But now that we’re apart and that constant reassurance wasn’t there, she cracked. We loved each other but it was still early in our relationship. We hadn’t even been together for a full year so we were still learning each other. Still figuring out what we wanted from each other. We were still growing and we still had so much to learn. We’d both been in relationships before, both somewhat serious and not serious at all. But this? This was different.

It wasn’t easy to get Nef to talk about this. She has this annoying habit of shutting down and running away when things hurt. I was surprised that instead of just calling it quits she cursed me out. She said exactly what she was thinking and was combative with me. If she hadn’t been she could have completely walked away from our relationship without me knowing what was going on…not that I would have accepted that. I would have flown to DC to figure out what the hell was up. I had already been so close to doing so. I refuse to let her run away from me.

Long distance relationships are always difficult but more so when the relationship is still in its youth. I knew that I didn’t want to go anywhere and I knew that I didn’t want Nef to go anywhere. She is mine and I am hers. I sat down with both of my parents and I laid everything on the table. I told them exactly what I thought the problem was. Who contributed what and what exactly needed to stop…I was mostly talking to my mom but I needed my dad there for moral support.

”She’s taking my son away from me.” my mother said.

”Mom, what are you talking about? I haven’t gone anywhere.”

”But you will. You won’t come home anymore. What if she gets pregnant? What if you marry her? You’ll move to the US and you’ll be gone.”

”Mom,” I hugged her. She was afraid of losing me. ”Nef and I haven’t even been together a year yet. It’s a little early to talk about marriage. As far as pregnancies go, we’re being careful. She’s on the pill and we use condoms. She’s still in school and the last thing we want is an unplanned baby. Nef is far to controlling to want to have an unplanned pregnancy. If it happens then maybe it was supposed to but just trust us to be responsible.”

”But if it does happen, do you really think she’s going to give up everything to follow you around? I’ll admit she’s a smart, successful woman with a bright future so do you think she’s going to give it all up to be with you?”

”No, but I do expect for us to try if we have to but for right now neither one of us has to give up anything to be together so let’s just take this slowly and see what happens.”

She tisked but hugged me back none the less. ”And no more pushing other women on me. You raised me to be respectful of women so stop trying to get me to cheat on my girlfriend.”